Having trouble keeping eye contact? Eye contact is one of the most passionate ways of showing someone how into them you are. It’s also a sign of confidence, attentiveness, and intelligence.
Shakespeare once said, “The eyes are the window to the soul.” Actually it’s said that Leonardo Di Vinci said the exact same thing, hmmm. Anyways, it doesn’t matter who said it or not, it matters that it’s true. The way someone keeps eye contact with someone can show a overwhelming amount of different emotions. Someone who can’t keep good eye contact for no longer than a few seconds can maybe seem shy or even scared. Maybe scared in a bad way, maybe scared in a kind of good, scared to like you type of way. If someone sends in some raw mouth watering, tongue melting, eye contact, it’s practically shag time. Most importantly, eye contact shows that you are indeed listening attentively.
Techniques to keep eye contact.
If you’re having trouble keeping eye contact there are certain techniques that you can initiate that could overcome your inability to stay focused on someone’s face as they sit next or across from you. These techniques aren’t just for the women you’re dating, it can also be used for job interviews, lectures, being lectured, or just appearing like you’re into what someone’s saying.
The triangle is a technique that involves making a triangle with the persons face. It’s sort of like the pitching in baseball. When you pitch a ball in baseball you need to throw the ball in the strike out area. If you throw the ball outside of the strikeout area and the batter doesn’t swing, that’s called a ball. It’s practically like “the triangle,” you want to stay in the strike out area.
The idea of the triangle is that there’s a general area on someone’s face which if you stay, as in stare, within that area you are making or faking eye contact. This area is an upside down isosceles triangle on the face. The top two angles, remember it’s upside down, are the ends of both eyes. So the vertex of one acute angle is the left eye, and the other vertex of the other acute angle is the right eye. The tip, because the triangle is pointing down, is the bottom of the upper lip.
See diagram below:
The closer eye or left eye:
The closer eye, or what is more likely called “the left eye” for some reason, is focusing on the eye closest to where you are, not necessarily the left eye. I use this more than I do anything else. It’s a basic technique. You pretty much just focus on the eye closest to you with both your eyes. I find it’s the easiest way to keep eye contact. Another way of doing this would be by always focusing on the left eye no matter where it is in contrast to you. This vanishes the chance that you might have to switch off every time the person you’re talking to adjusts themselves. See diagram below:
Looking through someone:
The “looking through someone” technique is done by picking an object behind someone’s face and trying to focus on it while talking to someone. The object could be part of the glass window behind someone, the table behind someone, or an imaginable mosquito floating directly behind the face of the girl you’re talking to. What this gives off is the ability that you aren’t directly staring at someone but instead through them. It’s kind of confusing as to why someone would actually want to do this, but if it’s done right it could actually show a sense of dominance.
After trying these techniques you should find it easier to stay focused on committing to keeping your eyes level with the person you’re talking to.